Idearly uses five categories of prompts:
GIFTS – who doesn’t like to receive a gift? Gifts can range from free items to small cost items – the cost is not important – the thought is important.
TOUCH – not to be confused with sex. Of course sex is part of touch, but someone who appreciates touch is often very tactile and will enjoy a simple hug or touch on their leg. Allow yourself to experiment with touch – it may feel foreign if touch is not one of your own preferences, but give them a go!
COMPLIMENTS – this means you are giving positive feedback to your partner about who (s)he is – not necessarily about looks, but about the characteristics that attracted you to that person in the first place. Please avoid words such as ‘nice’, ‘good’ – use words such as ‘beautiful’, ‘special’. Be genuine with your compliments.
ACTS of LOVE – an act of love is when you do something for your partner. It may be a chore that your partner usually carries out (eg a regular household chore) or it may be an act that you feel your partner would enjoy (such as organising an outing).
SPECIAL TIME – one of the reasons you are with your partner is that you enjoyed spending time together. To recreate that feeling or to improve that feeling, use special time to enjoy each other’s company and build on the conversations that you can have together around shared memories and activities.