Love is grand. Divorce is a hundred grand.

Love is grand. Divorce is a hundred grand.

Not sure who wrote that quote but it’s pretty profound. Idearly is not a counselling website or app – however I have studied Psychology in my degree and have been married for more than 30 years – I hope those experiences provide me with some wisdom...
Craving Security

Craving Security

I think it’s human nature to crave security – security around our job, our finances, our health and our love. As children, we look for security in our parents’ or carers’ unconditional love and as we move into adulthood, and find our life partner, we expect our love...
Clearing up Confusion

Clearing up Confusion

Why can love be so confusing? Well, for one thing, we tend to give love to our partner as we would wish to receive it. If, for example, you love to have chores done for you without being asked, then you may do that for your partner as well. But if your partner feels...
Thoughtfulness

Thoughtfulness

Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without’ – James Dobson. Let your partner know that they are your ‘rock’ and show them in lots of little ways how much you love them – with your...
Conflict

Conflict

I was in the shopping mall the other day and as I was going down the escalator, a young couple with two little boys was heading up – well, almost. The mum and two boys hopped onto the escalator and the dad refused to move from where he was standing at the...
When love is not madness….

When love is not madness….

Are you going a bit crazy being cooped up with your partner in isolation?    Some days I truly wonder if I’m going mad! Maybe not so much because of love, but because of the unusual circumstances we find ourselves living in. I feel like I’m chained to my...