Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without’ – James Dobson. Let your partner know that they are your ‘rock’ and show them in lots of little ways how much you love them – with your words, actions and feelings. Being thoughtful in a relationship helps you to express your love in a multitude of different ways.
Some couples seem to naturally do this well. I don’t think my husband and I are one of those! We sometimes get so caught up in life that we forget to show each other how much we mean to the other – a bit like the song by Dean Lewis – ‘7 Minutes’ where the lyrics say ‘I forgot to love you’. There is only so long a relationship can survive without thoughtfulness as it causes loneliness, resentment, a sense of being taken for granted. So keep up those little random acts of thoughtfulness – you’ll be rewarded a hundredfold. And the interesting feedback that I hear from couples, is that if only one partner starts giving random acts of thoughtfulness, the other partner will slowly begin to reciprocate – and you will experience a renewed sense of connectedness and love in your relationship.